Lalalalalalalala
Laura.
Lalalalalalalala
Laura.
My Mom called the police.
On Lalalalalala
Laura.
Yeah I get that she (Laura) was threatening my Mom but calling the police? Massively excessive. And once again the police are at my house. Why? Intervention? Yeaaaaaaaaaah Smooth move Mom. That'll totally resolve the situation.
Ahhhhhh whatever. It seems to SORT of be working. They definitely seem experienced in dealing with this but my God. What the fuck was my Mom thinking?
And okay 7 hours straight and yelling, screaming, bitching, etc. is enough to drive ANYONE crazy. But she has headphones, Laura is relatively lazy so she can usually walk away enough if she CONTINUOUSLY walks away (for like an hour plus).
Whatever.
Laura wants to be treated like an adult.
But the more she tries to gain this "respect" if you will the more immature and 13-year-old with massively OCD she acts.
And now (once again which has been the main theme of the last YEAR) she's bitching about wanting to live NOT with my Mom and with my grandmother/Aunts etc. And according to her this isn't her home etc.
Whatever.
I'm surprisingly cool about it. I mostly just don't want to get involved and risk making it worse.
I feel for my Mom because she does this every Mother's Day. All she wants is this pristine image of familial bliss and everone being happy and not freaking out. But dude, it's LAURA. She doesn't exactly like being pushed into ideas she feels are unattainable.
And all this is because of the same thing she was doing last night with the whole (completely paraphrased but still same meaning) "Mom just bosses me around and I can't take that anymore! I'm 20! I'm not a kid! I'm not going to just do whatever she tells me to just because she tells me to!" Yeah Laura because you ALWAYS used to :| Please.
I dunno. Before her meds seemed to be helping but now she seems like she back at the stage of where she wound up in the hospitable.
And she threatened my Mom and to run away. The running away was what made my Mom snap and call the police but poor Laura.... she feels so unloved and like my Mom just wants to get rid of her. It's not true but I can completely see why she feels that way.
Oy.... just when you think you've resolved things, they do something stupid -_-
Meh I think it is mostly semi-resolved.
Lessons learned.
1. We ALL know Laura needs space. The Tarrasqure requies dark caves with which to feed or it will eat you too.
2. Mom needs to choose her battles more wisely and let as much as possible slide; not as little as possible.
3. People telling her different from 1 and 2 do not know Laura, they have not RAISED Laura, and as such they cannot know the RIGHT way TO raise her. They can only knows ways to raise other children. Laura is not other children. Laura is an individual and needs to be treated like one.
4. What works best in the past, will most likely continue to work better than things that don't: no matter what anyone else naively/stupidly says. If letting Laura have her ice cream avoids a 3 hour fight, it's probably worth it. If one wants books moved; one must expect to move them oneself, not ask someone who not only thinks where they currently are is a good place but gets furious like a rhino at the mere idea that they belong somewhere else better.
5. Police are nice friendly people who are your friends and will tell your crazy relatives exactly what you've been telling them. Especially paramedics (they kept telling Laura and Mom with anti-psychotic drugs, things get worse before they get better but you have to stay on them for 2-3 weeks to see it get real.)
6. Space is good. Giving people opportunities to achieve that space? Priceless.
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