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Dear Male Feminists
Jul. 13th, 2017 04:10 pmStop trying to shame other men for liking the female body.
First of all, it does not help your point. Secondly that is nothing to do with equality, so if your concept of feminism is "equal rights," you're sure as hell failing it. Thirdly, sex negative shaming is far more associated with patriarchal attempts to control feminine expressions of sexuality. HOWEVER MUCH you try to maintain that it's about protecting women from other men, this is BY DEFINITION THAT MUCH MORE PATRIARCHAL.
It's irritating enough to try to find an apolitical explanation of homosexuality in the Roman legions (jfc this shouldn't be like pulling teeth, but I underestimated the "climate" we're in....) and to constantly pull up articles about how lesbianism was outlawed as an attempt to control women's sexuality.
It's irritating enough to have to deal with right-wing propaganda decrying women's sexuality as amoral decay rotting the very integrity of any fabric holding society together. (Drama llamas everywhere.)
But you're being a POOR ALLY when you espouse critical views decrying women's choices to enjoy porn or otherwise sexual material. And when you attack other men for enjoying such things, you're still basically telling women they're amoral and bad for liking it too. STOP.
Learn to look inward. Ask yourself what you really want in life. Don't try to control or fixate so deeply on others.
Heal thyself, well before you start on society.
- I like big boobs in media I consume. You know why? Because I like representation of myself in a physical format that I didn't choose/ask for, but nevertheless LIVE WITH EVERY DAY.
How can you say that there must be more women in media (films/tv/video games) but not with big boobs? Get out with that shit.
I like pretty girls being happy. Fucking fight me.
I love giant boobed women kicking ass and being unstoppable. Specifically because I don't have the health to kickbox anymore, but I loved the days I did, and I love the stories with them. Stop trying to suggest there's something wrong with the people who enjoy this.
Grow the the fuck up. Learn to enjoy things yourself. IT IS OKAY TO LIKE SEXY THINGS AND AESTHETICS. SERIOUSLY. You don't have to flay yourself and go martyrdom making yourself miserable for your sins of lust. All it does is hurt yourself and everyone around you.
Please stop.
OH AND?
I'm bisexual. I like men in crazy ass sexy shit too, but like most women? My taste in men varies more than my taste in women. And you know what?
THAT'S OKAY TOO.
P.S.
You will not get brownie points for mocking other men who are self-actualized enough to know what they like and go for it.
Instead, focus on ACTUAL FUCKING PROBLEMS. OR. GROW A GOD DAMN PAIR AND ASK REAL WOMEN WHAT THE REAL PROBLEMS ARE. FUCK.
First of all, it does not help your point. Secondly that is nothing to do with equality, so if your concept of feminism is "equal rights," you're sure as hell failing it. Thirdly, sex negative shaming is far more associated with patriarchal attempts to control feminine expressions of sexuality. HOWEVER MUCH you try to maintain that it's about protecting women from other men, this is BY DEFINITION THAT MUCH MORE PATRIARCHAL.
It's irritating enough to try to find an apolitical explanation of homosexuality in the Roman legions (jfc this shouldn't be like pulling teeth, but I underestimated the "climate" we're in....) and to constantly pull up articles about how lesbianism was outlawed as an attempt to control women's sexuality.
It's irritating enough to have to deal with right-wing propaganda decrying women's sexuality as amoral decay rotting the very integrity of any fabric holding society together. (Drama llamas everywhere.)
But you're being a POOR ALLY when you espouse critical views decrying women's choices to enjoy porn or otherwise sexual material. And when you attack other men for enjoying such things, you're still basically telling women they're amoral and bad for liking it too. STOP.
Learn to look inward. Ask yourself what you really want in life. Don't try to control or fixate so deeply on others.
Heal thyself, well before you start on society.
- I like big boobs in media I consume. You know why? Because I like representation of myself in a physical format that I didn't choose/ask for, but nevertheless LIVE WITH EVERY DAY.
How can you say that there must be more women in media (films/tv/video games) but not with big boobs? Get out with that shit.
I like pretty girls being happy. Fucking fight me.
I love giant boobed women kicking ass and being unstoppable. Specifically because I don't have the health to kickbox anymore, but I loved the days I did, and I love the stories with them. Stop trying to suggest there's something wrong with the people who enjoy this.
Grow the the fuck up. Learn to enjoy things yourself. IT IS OKAY TO LIKE SEXY THINGS AND AESTHETICS. SERIOUSLY. You don't have to flay yourself and go martyrdom making yourself miserable for your sins of lust. All it does is hurt yourself and everyone around you.
Please stop.
OH AND?
I'm bisexual. I like men in crazy ass sexy shit too, but like most women? My taste in men varies more than my taste in women. And you know what?
THAT'S OKAY TOO.
P.S.
You will not get brownie points for mocking other men who are self-actualized enough to know what they like and go for it.
Instead, focus on ACTUAL FUCKING PROBLEMS. OR. GROW A GOD DAMN PAIR AND ASK REAL WOMEN WHAT THE REAL PROBLEMS ARE. FUCK.
